For future reference please send lengthy personal asks like this under a submission or send them un-anon, because I don’t like having to publish the same “Do you think I have aspergers?” questions. Most of them are really case-by-case basis, so its better off personal. I answer them, typically, but really the only person that’s helping is you. xD
Oh and a reminder to everyone, I can NOT diagnose you through a brief glimmer of your life from an ask. All I can offer is a yay or nay on wether or not its a textbook ASD trait or something I’ve seen in multiple NT or ASD individual, which I hope is enough, but really its NOT reliable. We’re just talking about it. Everyone is different. No two NTs nor ASDs will respond the same way to a situation, which is why it takes multiple sessions, family histories and in depth testing to receive a diagnosis.
So, I can not help you get any closer to an answer in that regard; I am only here for self discovery and coping techniques for any individual with a difficult social situation. I help more NTs in my life with interpersonal relationships than anyone. xD You do not need to have an ASD to have difficulties.
ANYWAYS anon, your answers are under the cut! c:
Anonymous asked: ... Waitwaiwait. Re: last meme. If borderline personality disorder and asperger's are on the "opposite end of the spectrum", and I have both...?????
My dad is the same; ASD+BPD, so the combo is actually kind of a touchy issue for me to talk about, so if I look like I’m not going into a lot of depth that’s why. I love him to bits but yeah. Unmanaged disorders are not a treat.
But I believe they mean opposite ends of the spectrum because extreme emotional states combined with highly logical mind.
If I go back to DBT think of it as emotional mind(BPD) and logical mind(ASD)! You just happen to run from one end of that emotional spectrum to the other. ;P
The submitter (I think) was saying they’re like wise mind together! Because they balance out those two sides.
But yes, they are on opposite ends of emotion, but there is overlap.
Anonymous asked: Personally, I don't want a cure. Looking at me as diseased when it's really just a matter of perception kinda hurts. That's why I cringe at the FIX THESE BROKEN PEOPLE mentality. I'm not broken! I just work differently from NTs.
Anonymous asked: there is no cure for autism, but there could be a cure for society to stop trying to make ASD individuals fit into a system not designed for them. :)
Anonymous asked: If you count total eradication as a "Cure", then by all means, Autism Speaks is trying to cure us. I really think they should be more focused on helping, since a lot of people who are autistic are actually very smart and could really help society if they weren't shunned off as monsters and were helped so they could convey ideas easier
I do agree. I find the elimination of people based on genetic coding nothing short of what Hitler tried to do. The idea that one individual is ‘better’ than another because of a specific trait is appalling. “Prevention” worries me… in the same way that “live births of children with down-syndrome have decreased by 1%”. People from the outside want to pity and judge those who struggle with certain abilities… but knowing a young man my age with down-syndrome he’s just such a delight and a beautiful individual, I would never change him or ask for anything different.
When I hear people with physical limitations, wheelchair bound, blindness, deafness… So many people wish they could “cure them”, but a majority of those people do not want a cure. There’s a few people who do, so I just say majority… Most of them just want the world to deal with what they have now.
You’d be amazed how many people won’t help someone in a wheelchair who is struggling to get through a door. I often hear, and its easy to believe, more than having a cure to give them an able bodied cookie cutter, it means a hell of a lot more to just have someone open a stupid door.
Anyways… yes. I think the idea of a “cure” rather than a “solution” seems to loose the original intent. Where does it stop…? How long until we’re trying to all have the same hair color, eye color, nationality? Its all about perceptions. //SHRUG
Anonymous asked: Your organization doesn't want a cure... This is the whole reason I support autism speaks as an autistic. I WANT A CURE FOR ME. I don't care if anybody else takes it.
Well you’ll still have autism speaks to help you! Though I’m worried that they’re not really looking for a cure either, that is entirely up to you who you support and how you support them.
I am really sorry that you want a “cure”…
I used to think I was broken, that I needed to be fixed, that it was wrong to be the way I was. I’ve learned that through tons of hard work I can change the parts that I felt I needed work on, and accept the parts that were really actually quite unique.There was no quick fix, but I’m a better person because there wasn’t.
It’s sad to think I once would have taken a magical cure if it was offered to me, and given up who I was. Diversity is a beautiful thing. I hope you can one day see that in yourself. c:
In light of the Autism Speaks controversies
And would love some people to help out on the matter. Spectrum and non alike.
If you are:
And finally if your are someone on the Spectrum who would like to speak up, or if you are an advocate for someone who has difficulties speaking; please contact me.
Eventually I’d love to be able to pay others for their hard work, but it will be a non-profit so… I am not a business major, I need someone who is haha.
Alt-ideas for name: expresses, whispers,
And I know there are some great foundations out there, but I’m concerned over the power Autism Speaks has right now. The things they do look good at a glance, but there is no reason to trust them. They use fear and the public lime-light and… its time someone really went head to head with them. We’re TAKIN’ IT BACK. Its time to turn the AC on. ;P
For those of you not on the spectrum and not involved who may ask “What, why? Having autism is terrible” because that seems to be the pervasive idea right now…. well, I have the answer for you. Its not. You and I have been lead to believe that its terrible, but its not. There are difficulties to overcome, but if I had some of the people in my life 20 years ago that I have now, I would never have had difficulties. For those who are non-verbal things are a little different, but no one with a disability wants a “cure”, they want treatment. The world needs to change, not those inside it. To bring that point home: even some of the deadliest genetic disorders can be beneficial in the right environment.